Journey of getting it “right” for himself

Today a youth came to the Crisis Shelter front desk and asked if they could say hello to me. When I came to the desk, there stood Tom. Tom had recently turned 23 which meant he could no longer access the shelter, so we hadn’t seen him for a while. He was still his colorful self, trying not to swear when talking, telling jokes, and letting me know his stance on society, while asking me if he could have a toothbrush.

As we talked I could really see he was happy and he seemed to have more clarity about his life than before. He told me how he had managed to stay living in a house for the last month (a feat for him), had almost quit using drugs and had realized that he wanted to take a different path in his life. He described how he was following his passion for music and was interning at a shop and working music shows in the evening to pay the bills.

Tom often struggled with the structure in the Crisis Shelter, but stayed with us over 10 times trying to get it “right”. During this time Tom and I built a really special relationship, full of ups and downs, but Tom always knew I respected him no matter what.  As he stood there, chatting away I couldn’t help but feel proud of the young man who stood in front of me. He had taken his own path, in his own way and was on the journey of getting it “right” for himself. What made me smile is when he let me know that he figured he should stop by and check in to let me know he was okay and doing good. He seemed so proud and wanted to share it!

Today a youth came to the Crisis Shelter front desk and asked if they could say hello to me. When I came to the desk, there stood Tom. Tom had recently turned 23 which meant he could no longer access the shelter, so we hadn’t seen him for a while. He was still his colorful self, trying not to swear when talking, telling jokes, and letting me know his stance on society, while asking me if he could have a toothbrush.

As we talked I could really see he was happy and he seemed to have more clarity about his life than before. He told me how he had managed to stay living in a house for the last month (a feat for him), had almost quit using drugs and had realized that he wanted to take a different path in his life. He described how he was following his passion for music and was interning at a shop and working music shows in the evening to pay the bills.

Tom often struggled with the structure in the Crisis Shelter, but stayed with us over 10 times trying to get it “right”. During this time Tom and I built a really special relationship, full of ups and downs, but Tom always knew I respected him no matter what.  As he stood there, chatting away I couldn’t help but feel proud of the young man who stood in front of me. He had taken his own path, in his own way and was on the journey of getting it “right” for himself. What made me smile is when he let me know that he figured he should stop by and check in to let me know he was okay and doing good. He seemed so proud and wanted to share it!

As our conversation drew to an end I let him know how great it was to see him and to stop by anytime. He said he would check in soon, grabbed an apple out of the basket and went on his way. I smiled and felt truly grateful that he cared enough to let me know how he was doing.